A good friend of mine sent me an article the other day. One which I very much enjoyed reading… though it didn’t surprise me much. The gist? The idea that “80% of women are sleeping with 20% of guys” is garbage. Now, I don’t know how this idea got so much traction. All you have to […]
This was an offensive observation I made on a recent client call. One that some of you won’t like, and others of you will think makes perfect sense… even if it didn’t occur to you. But it’s something you can use off the bat to gauge whether or not a woman is likely going to be
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Read receipts, that is. Someone asked me this interesting question the other day… basically, what I think about them when it comes to texting a girl. (BTW buy my book, Tackling Texting, if you want to get good at this essential skill) Personally, I turn mine off. I don’t like a girl to know exactly
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So on Saturday I talked about some problems with online dating. And why I’m not a big fan of it for most of you. But remember… you are talking to Pat “There’s Nuance To This” Stedman. As you might expect, there are exceptions. The first is if you’re just looking for “no strings attached” sex. If this
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So yesterday we got to a lot of talking about online dating on Twitter. As many of you saw, my takes were not particularly positive on the phenomenon. I likened it to “getting food at a supermarket” vs approaching girls (more like hunting) or meeting girls through your social circle (raising them on a farm). The latter
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It goes without saying there is an enormous amount of debate within the dating world about “how to attract women.” Everybody’s got a different philosophy. Some swear by game, and think it’s a requirement to get women. Some believe you need to have a ripped body and fat wallet. And still others believe things “just
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One thing you see quite a bit today are the culturally enforced archetypes of the “strong, confident woman” and the guy “in touch with his sensitivity.” Now, if you’re on this list I probably don’t have to explain too much of why this stuff is not to be emulated. “Strong” women are weak, and “compassionate”
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So yesterday I put out an email some might have considered harsh towards women who had “daddy issues.” Which is why today I want to talk about something I have found to be an extreme issue with many of my clients… yet no one has talked about in our usual internet circles. I’m referring to
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One of my former clients was in the city the other day, and we got to chatting about the role of mothers vs fathers in a person… and which is more important for their development. Conventional wisdom indicates this is the mother. And maybe that’s true. The mother is generally the one who facilitates emotional
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So catching up on old topics… last week I sent out this tweet re: stoicism: It got mostly a good response, but a couple of people disagreed. They found they did much better with women as they became more stoic. Why the discrepancy? Well, to an extent, it’s definitional. Stoicism means different things to different
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