So I’m going to air a theory with ya’ll today that I’ve been musing on for awhile… and undermines an enormous amount of current thinking (whichever way you look in the dating world) You hear a lot on the internetz about “what women want” from men. Some claim it’s strength. (This is true, especially physically… but […]
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The other day I spent some time exploring a salt mine (oldest still-operating mine in Europe, see if you can find it) with a friend of mine. He’s married to a girl he’s been more or less with exclusively his whole life. (If I recall correctly, either him or her “broke up” with the other
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Got a great question from my guy @MimeticValue on Twitter today (why are you not following him?), dealing with a very interesting phenomenon in dating: “@Pat_Stedman I noticed that people project a role onto you from their first impressions, and it’s very hard to change this. If she likes you for that role, she becomes
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Yesterday we tackled the implications of your “macro” approach towards a girl, and how seducers may create an impression that turns a girl on short-term, but is counterproductive after a few months.Today we’re focusing on the details, which is probably what @MimeticValue was looking for when he asked (I like to use questions to extrapolate
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A reader writes in about an interesting dilemma: Hey pat, would love to hear your opinion on this situation I’m in. I’m having somewhat of a hard time. I’m seeing 2 different women and not sure which one I should get serious with. One of them seems crazy about me, she seems very open to
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It’s the day after Christmas, and after a long couple of days with my family… my wife and I are about to hop on a flight to visit hers. Christmas is a serious event in both our families. We always spend the week before with mine, the week after with hers, and trade the day
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A very regular question I get. And one too dependent on context, if we’re being frank, to really answer for you right now. (This is what coaching is for) But let’s speak “macro” for today’s email This question comes up with lot with guys who might be with a girl for awhile, but they’ve started having some
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So I heard an inspiring story the other day. It’s about a girl I’ve known since my youth, but haven’t talked to in a few years. She’s an average to above-average looking girl, though nothing to write home about aesthetically. But she’s clever, confident, loyal, and by all accounts pretty good in bed. (This is
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I got into a conversation with the daygame guys yesterday (always a pleasure), and the topic fell once again upon the topic of a strong woman. Now, this is based on something I said the other day… more or less that “strong men want strong women.” And to be honest, I regret my phrasing. “Strong
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Today’s topic is a biggie, gentlemen… so strap yourselves in. We’ll be talking about something I know not many others talking about. “Friends” who will try to steal your girl (snakes). Now, a caveat before we begin. There are only two things you need to really worry about when it comes to cheating. a) How
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