A reader writes in, with a particularly juicy dilemma: Hey man, so Im in a pickleI don’t have trouble getting with girls anymore. However I now have trouble handling them. So I moved to Spain and have just wanted to explore (places and women) and definitely not settle down. I started hooking up with this high […]
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A reader writes in (abridged): Hey pat a potential email for the brothers learning. This recently came up in a whats app group with friends of mine talking about game the first time you get a date/first outing. One of the dudes absolutely shat the bed with this date subtly imo. He told us everything that
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A couple of days ago, I got into a little tiff with one of the so-called “zoomers” on Twitter. The zoomers, aka Gen-Z, are an interesting group. Some of them are impressive beyond words – optimistic, brave, and transgressive in spite of all the cultural rot and societal poisoning thrown their way. Others, however, are
Super short and straight to the point email for you today. Aside from our calls, one of the perks of working with me is the opportunity to text me or share in the private client-only group one’s latest updates with women. I observe some interesting interactions as a result. Some of these are serious. Big
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As you know, I love my little eavesdrops in this cafe. Tonight’s flavor was a conversation between two young, 22 year old aspiring actresses — one Romanian, one American. This chat was a charming one to listen to. Like most artistic girls, these ladies had a natural beauty and femininity to them. And the girls
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The other week, something that doesn’t usually happen occurred that was a bit disappointing. A client who had signed up to work with me backed out on his word, and bailed. Of course, this wasn’t much of a surprise. I could see this happening in real time. The lack of follow-through in what we agreed
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The other day I received a brief question from a reader regarding a previous email: “Men want to be admired; women want to be desire.” Could you explain this a bit more, the difference between being admired and desired? Or do you have an article you could point me to? —— I don’t have an article addressing
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It’s no secret: women are making a lot more moolah today. And so more and more guys are getting a little more self-conscious about their financial situation. Hypergamy dictates that women only date across and up. So what to do if your bank account isn’t looking so pretty? Well, a little context to the above
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Every now and then I’ll get a question from some prospective client or observer. “Well, Pat you’re not dating anymore… things have changed a lot in the last couple years… should you really be giving dating advice anymore?” It’s a real big thinkus. Though in all fairness — I get it. How could I, someone
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An observation on a call with a client got me thinking about something. Something I haven’t talked all too much about. And yet, something that many guys have witnessed and wondered about. What fascinating little phenomenon am I talking about? Female escalation. As in, you’re on a date… and despite you not really doing anything,
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