Now, if you’ve been following along, you know by now I’m not one of those “red pill” guys who is constantly going off about modern women. And unlike many, I’m not anti-marriage. But as I’ve propped myself more and more into the “serious relationship” space… and observed the long-term marriages of many close to me… […]
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Well here were are, back to blogging after a 9 month hiatus. It feels good to be back. But the break was sorely needed. The “red pill wars,” as history will call them, drained me of long form content. I needed a place to play around with ideas, reduce the pressure… and the daily email
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Another day, another big Twitter argument with “that” corner of the internet. And all because of a little bitty quote of mine from Monday’s email Rivelino (@alpharivelino) sent out: “Ethical players must stay away from decent girls, or must change their ways and date them seriously. You are scum otherwise, no matter what you tell
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Wanted to piggie back of yesterday’s email while it’s still on people’s minds, and talk about ways women “cheat loyally.” It’s something people don’t talk too much about — for understandable reasons. It’s still cheating, even if the reasons for it are complex. But understanding how some of this stuff works on the “deep end”
Let it be known that despite my attacks against Red Pill dogmatism, I’m no dogmatic myself. Even women I’d love to classify as “high quality” do devious things, especially in an emotional state. For instance, a story that happened years ago with a (now-ex) friend of mine (“J”) and his girlfriend (“H”). It begins at
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Caught up with an old pal the other week and I was interested to hear a little update in his romantic life. So my friend has been close to this girl for years. She’s a sweet girl, and attractive. Early on he liked her. But though they flirted a bit, in the end she’d always
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A brief recap before we dive into the final element. So far we’ve talked about Curiosity and Standards. Curiosity is what you lead with — it’s an open “perception,” that allows you to learn and have fun with the person. Standards are what tempers the Curiosity. It’s a closed “judgment.” It sets the frame of
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Yesterday we talked about curiosity and its importance in avoiding transactional dating. But a lot of guys with good game know to approach women with curiosity. And it doesn’t necessarily ensure an interaction isn’t going to go a superficial route, where the girl is flaking and behaving poorly. Which is why element numero dos is
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The first problem I see with clients which leads them down the path of transactional dating is simple, but frequently overlooked. And it starts with the most common question I get asked. “What do I say to her?” I’ll just be blunt: this is the WRONG question to ask. I know a lot of guys
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A big problem with black-white thinking on relationships is there is an assumption that all “beta” styled relationships are the same… and that the same approach will work for each of them. There are two types I see commonly. The first is the “best friends” dynamic. This is a relationship characterized but trust and comfort.
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