A brief recap before we dive into the final element. So far we’ve talked about Curiosity and Standards. Curiosity is what you lead with — it’s an open “perception,” that allows you to learn and have fun with the person. Standards are what tempers the Curiosity. It’s a closed “judgment.” It sets the frame of […]
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Yesterday we talked about curiosity and its importance in avoiding transactional dating. But a lot of guys with good game know to approach women with curiosity. And it doesn’t necessarily ensure an interaction isn’t going to go a superficial route, where the girl is flaking and behaving poorly. Which is why element numero dos is
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The first problem I see with clients which leads them down the path of transactional dating is simple, but frequently overlooked. And it starts with the most common question I get asked. “What do I say to her?” I’ll just be blunt: this is the WRONG question to ask. I know a lot of guys
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A big problem with black-white thinking on relationships is there is an assumption that all “beta” styled relationships are the same… and that the same approach will work for each of them. There are two types I see commonly. The first is the “best friends” dynamic. This is a relationship characterized but trust and comfort.
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“I admire hard work. But it isn’t my gift. And while I will continue to improve my discipline… it never will be. Only once I accepted this did I start to make money. Who understands why?” I tweeted this out the other day and promised to explain why on here (I save the best of
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Coming at least somewhat from “red pill” circles — and yet being a significant critic of the red pill ethos — I’m a bit of a contradiction, at least at first glance. Outsiders think I’m red pill because my views don’t align with the mainstream. “Insiders” call me an apostate because I’ve attacked key figures
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A couple of you have been asking me what I think about the #MeToo movement and the sexual harassment allegations flying around. I know it’s a hot topic, and I probably should have said more on it earlier — content 101 is discuss what’s relevant. Yet for the most part, I’ve avoided giving comment. The
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WHAT IS #UPSTREAM? There have been a lot of comments and questions about #UpstreamTwitter in recent days — what it entails, what we stand for, what we hope to achieve. We appreciate the interest. But I’ll admit, although the the group nominated me to take a stab at it — these aren’t easy questions to
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PART 2: PSYCHOLOGICAL ATTRACTION As we discussed in Part 1, pheromones and intelligence lay the ground work for Chemistry to occur. But it is psychology itself that brings two people together, and that is what we will explore now. Our minds are wired in distinct ways, and that wiring determines whether we are drawn to
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PART ONE: PHEROMONES AND INTELLIGENCE Previously in our Three Pillars of Attraction series we capped off the Second Pillar of Attraction, Persona. Now we’re going to finally finish it by tackling Personality. The first thing to understand about Personality is that it is fundamentally different from the other two pillars of attraction. It operates in
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