It’s no secret: one of the main reasons guys reach out to me is my specialty in deep work. Unlike a lot of coaches in dating and relationships, I don’t just stick to tactics.I don’t simply show you what to do, but how to THINK. Because doing well with women on a fundamental level is […]
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A couple of days ago, I tweeted out the following: The little comment got some interesting feedback. People were curious: what exactly did I mean? Well, I will tell you my friends. You see… whether it’s when a guy reaches out to me, or is in the process of working with me… at some point
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As you know, I love my little eavesdrops in this cafe. Tonight’s flavor was a conversation between two young, 22 year old aspiring actresses — one Romanian, one American. This chat was a charming one to listen to. Like most artistic girls, these ladies had a natural beauty and femininity to them. And the girls
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The other week, something that doesn’t usually happen occurred that was a bit disappointing. A client who had signed up to work with me backed out on his word, and bailed. Of course, this wasn’t much of a surprise. I could see this happening in real time. The lack of follow-through in what we agreed
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I put out on Twitter the other day some ambitions I had for the future: The inspiration for this came from some of my experiences at a retreat this weekend. It’s first first of eight I’ll be going to over the next 1.5 years. In a nutshell, this course is basically designed to give me
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Yesterday I blocked and removed a long time subscriber. It was a pointless bit of drama, but I’m going to share it… not only because it may prevent a similar fate for some of you, but because it’s an important lesson you need to internalize as a man. As many of you know, my good
As I was sitting in the cafe, considering writing something completely different, a memory entered my head of a “botched” sales call I had nearly a year ago. This was an interesting time for me — the biz was on the ascendence, but the fruits of this momentum were just shy from coming in. And
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Yesterday the great daygamer Nash had an interesting thread on the different types of “mindsets” guys have when they daygame… and their commensurate results. He noted that guys who feel like they NEED to approach do poorly, guys who WANT to see some results… but guys who approach “out of choice” do the best. He’s
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So perhaps some of you saw, I was “bodyshamed” yesterday by the usual suspects on twitter for a picture I had with Anthony. Comments I received? “Soy tits” “Bad posture” “Baby arms” Now, never mind that these guys worship a dork who looks like a middle aged lesbian. Conventional wisdom would suggest I should just ignore
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As many of you saw, I put out a few tweets the other day re: how “not crying” doesn’t make you tough, it’s a sign of emotional repression: Some of you wanted me to elaborate on this a bit. Honestly I think my comments speak for themselves. Guys around these parts are so insecure about how
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