One of the things I love doing is prodding the singles out there about their dating life. Partly, out of entertainment. (Most people are so clueless, and lack so much self-awareness, it boggles the mind) But also for content fodder. I mine these people like Cerro Rico in Potosi, gleaning every last bit of silver […]
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The following tale is a difficult one to tell. It delves into some very dark parts of the female psyche, particularly the psyche of a ubiquitous female type: the ISFJ. But tis very instructive, so let’s dive in. First, a little background. ISFJs are the behind-the-scenes “caretaker” women. They keep a nice, orderly home. Appreciate
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I’ve somewhat positioned myself as the anti-game dating coach in these corners. While other people talk about it constantly, I tend to minimize it… focusing instead on the deep work.But the truth is, I’m not anti-game. It’s a Pillar of Attraction (Persona).I simply speak out against it, because I see it overdone. Case study #1:
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I was on call with a client the other day, and as is not-atypical, when trying to explain something to him I came up with a novel explanation. A new interpretation of the universe, if you will. It has to do with my new thing recently about “intuitive approaches” For those who have been sleeping
As you know, I put out a little advisory yesterday to women. It was direct. It was harsh. And, it was true. But what’s also true — and men don’t quite appreciate the difficulty of this — is the apparent paradox women need to navigate between biological and psychological attraction. Women need to be beautiful
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Premising this for my boys. No, I am not becoming Matthew Hussey and working with women (though I respect the game). I ain’t switching no teams. But, for the few women on here who might be (creepily) lurking, and for the general knowledge of my gentlemen, I wanted to give some advice. A few pearls
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Yesterday I talked about the quality vs quantity dilemma with women. But a reader noticed a potential discrepancy. To paraphrase: “Pat, does this mean you no longer believe in harems?”An excellent question — since I wrote an article explaining how to get them — which I will answer presently. First though, I want to zoom out. Although
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Yesterday’s email was long, so I cut it short. But there was more business to attend to… and I want to return to a theme I have thought much about recently. Quality vs Quantity. I believe this is the fundamental difference amongst those in the dating community. There are some that believe the way to
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I got into a cordial disagreement with Nash (@daysofgame) on Twitter the other day. Now, I don’t want anything here misconstrued. Nash is very smart, and moreover a good guy. I like him a lot. And, I don’t want to put him on blast. But I think it worthwhile for you readers to understand our
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Although I’m very tuned into the modern dating scene, with its trials and tribulations, I have a bit of a confession to make. It’s a silly thing, really. But I’m so focused on the “deep” end of things with most of my clients, I have forgotten of late to mention one of the most important
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