HOW TO CREATE WHAT YOU HATE One of the crazy things about humans is their ability to project. Aka, taking their own flaws, pathologies, etc. and accusing other people of doing them. We’ve been seeing a bunch of that taking place recently. (“Kill the ‘fascists,’ they are inciting violence!”) But truly, it’s as common in […]
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Ever wanted to talk to a girl or take things to the next level but “couldn’t” because you felt too anxious? I know it’s happened to me too many times to count. Anxiety is endemic in our society, and in the romantic realm it’s pretty much a given. The more you like someone, the more
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Almost every guy out there has at one point found himself enamored with a woman. So as one of those men, I’m sure you’ve said something like this before (or at least heard it from other guys): “She’s different than other girls” “She cares about me in ways no other woman does” “We really get
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You know one thing pretty much all guys who struggle with women have in common? A lack of total social awareness. Don’t get me wrong, these guys are not (necessarily) *clueless* about what’s going on around them. In fact, they might even be no worse than your average joe-schmo. But coupled with other issues, the little
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THE WOMEN YOU DESERVE Much angst is made in male circles these days about the “modern woman.” You’ve heard about her. Entitled. Out of shape. Negative. Often psychologically unstable. For most guys, not their dream partner. So endemic and unpalatable is this “modern woman” that a new fantasy among men has arisen: the foreign girl.
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I talk a lot about the importance of strategy over tactics. As in, not focusing on short-term actions that undermine the broader goal. Some examples? – Trying to get a girl when the very act of pursuit undermines your frame– Gaming a girl who is not a good fit for your broader relationship goals– Orienting
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Women are fascinating creatures. They can act crazy one instant, and sweet and loving the next. They claim to hate assholes, yet seem to go for them. They say they want you to do something, yet get pissed off when you actually do it. For most men, women are mysterious creatures whose true wishes are
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THE CHICKEN OR THE EGG On June 28th, 1914 Archduke Ferdinand and his wife Sophie were assassinated by a Serbian Nationalist, Gavrilo Princip, in Sarajevo. If you were to ask an average person with basic history knowledge about this event, 99% would tell you this is what “caused World War One.” Perhaps they are right.
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GIRL GAME Recently I was catching up with a friend who was trying to decide whether or not to “shack up” with a girl he was dating. “She’s so great,” he told me. “But I’m not sure if I’m totally into it. She’s a few years older than me and wants kids soon, and I’m
Cognitive Dissonance Yesterday my wife lost her job. The day before that I sliced my eye open so badly I spent all day hiding like a vampire from the light. Could hardly write, because to a cut cornea a computer screen is the modern day version of the rack. It was leaking pus all day.
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