A reader writes in: So basically I got married 2 years back. My wife is from a wealthy family. Her mom and dad got divorced after our marriage. And she started dating her personal trainer after that. I wasn’t really happy about that because that guy was even younger than me. It felt like he’s
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Something occurred the other day with a client, which in fact occurs quite commonly. They have some situation with a girl. Things aren’t good, there are all sorts of problems… (Or maybe things SEEM good, but there are all sorts of “subtle tells” going on under the surface that raise red flags.) Very often it
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As anyone who watches my periscopes knows, I enjoy my wine. It’s a great joy to my life… the diversity of producers, terroir, vintage, varietal, etc. produces endless flavors, and each bottle is a new experience. And yet, wine has its drawbacks… to the extent I am already cutting back on drinking it. Wine is alcohol, and
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This might be a weird one for some of you, but after tweeting this out this morning, thought I’d elaborate: As I get deeper and deeper into energy and intimacy, I’ve started to think more about what it means to be a man, and what it means to be a woman. There is a polarity
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An occasional concern I get from prospective clients is whether there is going to be “actionable advice” in our workings together. They know I get “deep work” and know my stuff about women… but will I tell them specifically what to do and say to a girl? Are they gonna get the right homework assignments, and systems
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As usual for most mornings, today I woke up, and after some light reading and journaling checked twitter to see what dumb stuff was going on in the world (and what clever takes my mutuals had to say about it). But to my surprise, today in my DMs weren’t questions about some situation with so-and-so’s
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Could use some guidance on this… I have a black girlfriend. We’ve been dating 6 weeks and everything has been great. Deep connection. Aligned values. Undeniable physical attraction. It’s the most heart centered relationship of my life. We were driving on Saturday and she saw a Trump 2020 sign & cracked a joke. She then
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Hey Pat, I was wondering if you’d be able to help with a small annoyance with my girlfriend before it turns into a problem. Here it goes, I understand if there’s only so much you’re willing to do. The short story is that every time my girlfriend and I aren’t in physical proximity with one another
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I tweeted out today some observations about what’s happening in the online realm. Which, considering this stuff is my “business” — might be considered a bit risky. “Wait Pat, you’re saying that your clients aren’t getting great results online? What does that say about you?” It says I’m honest. It’s not just my clients, it’s
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There’s a reason I’m a dating AND relationship coach. These two subject areas, while obviously overlapping, are in fact quite different. Something that becomes VERY apparent as a married guy (who had a LOT of experience dating)… when I see the regular commentary of manosphere bros asserting things that work in a casual context will
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