Pat Stedman Blog

Nice Guys Strike Back

Been observing something the last couple of months that’s incredibly fascinating. When I saw it the first time, I considered it an exception. When I saw it the second time, a curiosity. Now I’ve seen it 5+ times among my clients and it seems to be gaining speed. And so I’m taking this shift very […]

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Believe All Women?

My good friend Hutt had quite the observation the other day: Makes you wonder why no one talks about this. Because it’s one of the more common phenomena among women. Women — with very few exceptions — go along with what the dominant social influence in their lives is. For most women, that’s mainstream culture;

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Masculinity and Tension

A new year, a new manosphere motif. First it was cold showers, then black coffee and rare steaks. Now the current fad among the gentlemen on Twitter seems to be semen retention. The idea going around is that “holding it in” isn’t simply good from a health standpoint (there are a lot of nutrients in

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Should You Tell On An Ex?

A surprisingly somewhat normal story emerged on reddit worth commenting on (scroll past for summary): Basically, this girl’s ex shows up at her place the night of his bachelor party. And in his drunken state, he professed his feelings for her and regret things didn’t work out between them. Her question for the internet: should

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The Value of A Woman

“To a great extent, the level of any civilization is the level of it’s womanhood. When a man loves a woman, he has to become worthy of her. The higher her virtue, the more her character, the more devoted she is to truth, justice, goodness, the more a man has to aspire to be worthy

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Why To Steal A Man’s Girl

Short email for you today. But wanted to give a coda to a series I began back in February. Part 1: Should You Steal Another Man’s Girl? Part 2: *How* To Steal Another Man’s Girl If you were wondering what happened, well… My client got the girl. And now they are married and expecting the first addition

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How A Woman Opens Up A Man

Put out this viral tweet about a month ago, and the amazing Dean Abbott asked me to elaborate: No surprise, it appears everyone in the manosphere understands that men give structure to women. Women are chaotic — women are nature. Men are order, they provide them with the required guidance to help them grow. Like civilization, they build

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