Pat Stedman Blog

What The Movies Get Wrong About Love

Hope you enjoyed yesterday’s breakdown of the men in Sixteen Candles. But there was another element I wanted to mention from the film… Because while it’s fun and useful to talk about archetypes, the reality is that movies are a snapshot in time. They don’t capture an individual’s growth, or the evolution of a relationship. They take a moment,

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Anxiety And Your Needs

Got a question from the great Matias about something I tweeted last fall: There are two parts to the answer. But first, we need to make a distinction. Because there is a difference between GENERAL procrastination and SPECIFIC procrastination. General procrastination is an AVOIDANCE pattern. It’s an indication that there is a part of you who does

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The Overcommunication Trap

Listen to a lot of mainstream or new age relationship advice, and they will tell you that the secret to a healthy relationship is to communicate. And truth be told, they’re right. Some level of “game playing” may have a role early on in a romantic dalliance — you don’t want to come on too strong after

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Cocky vs Cruel

Had a question crop up by @jaguarness the other day I wanted to get to, as it’s one many guys struggle with: My answer? Well, obviously it is a fine line, and getting it right is mostly a calibration issue. Guys who aren’t used to being a little cocky will likely overdo it at first

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Starter Story Interview

Merry Christmas Eve my friends – just a short email for you today. As many of you know already, my wife had a baby last week… so took a bit of a hiatus on writing. We will be resuming on the 26th. In the meantime, if you’re interested in hearing the story of my business

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