I recently finished off Vanity Fair — an eloquent, satirical novel of upper-class Britain at the close of the Napoleonic Wars and the years following. (Note: This is different from the ironically-named magazine of today which elevates said snobby upper class) One of the greatest things about this work — published in 1848 — is the no-holds-barred […]
I was talking to an ex-client of mine the other day about the current status of his relationship. Things are overall pretty good. Over the 6 months of working together, he shifted from a position of powerlessness to a position of authority in the relationship… a dynamic which has been effectively solidified. And yet, though
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One of my favorite books (not sure if I’ve mentioned it before) is The Unbearable Lightness of Being, by Milan Kundera. Milan is a Czech writer, and as would be befitting, his book takes place (mostly) in Prague, on the eve of the Soviet invasion in ’68. The book is great on multiple levels.Gives you
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Yesterday on twatter I put out a quote on “Ethical Seduction” ***Ethical seduction: Understanding someone’s weak spots… and causing them to love you for helping them overcome them.*** Some people wondered whether this was no different than just being kind. Spoiler alert: It is. Not to diminish such gestures, but anyone can be kind. It doesn’t
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Personality work is polarizing in the dating community. Some people swear by it. Some write it off entirely. A major reason for this divide comes down to fear. For instance: Many people think personality is the be-all-end-all in romance because they are worried about coming across as sexist, and think personality conveniently writes-off gender. “People
Another day, another spat with some of these RP guys. I know some of you love the drama, some of you hate it. I expect it’ll be over soon-ish, but since our audiences overlap, don’t be surprised if it takes some time for the separation to be clear and complete… Anyway, one thing I wanted
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The other day I tweeted a thread about The Red Pill (TRP) applying primarily to damaged women, and won’t work for emotionally healthy girls… though indicated within it that *most* women are indeed damaged, and that the number of these is growing. Subsequently, a follower made an observation: “This point seems undermined by your admission
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It’s funny being in relationships with women. Even the most “level headed” girls go through emotional swings for seemingly no reason. It’s usually pretty annoying. We’re feeling great and then she comes over pissy about something. Bad energy, ruining our good vibes. So we want to solve it. We want to make her happy, because
I was talking to a (potential) client recently about an interesting thing: trust and relationships. (If you want to consider working with me, go here: www.patstedman.com/application) Truth be told, it’s not something I’ve gone over too much with clients to date. Most guys who work with me want to learn game, want to get their minds
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Dread Game, especially dread game focused on Persona, might be the most controversial piece of advice in TRP canon. For the uninitiated, Dread Game is effectively raising your “sexual market value” and then putting yourself on the market, or at least giving the impression of that possibility to the woman in your life. It’s basically
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