The other day on my dating/relationship periscope (check out these weekly wine Q&As if you haven’t) I got a little “deep” on one of my questions. The low down: A guy was considering breaking things off with a girl he’d been dating for about 6 months, in part because he felt he wasn’t ready, and could “upgrade.” […]
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Got a couple of good responses to a recent email I wanted to address. First one: I think this is generally right on but here with a one year old? You may be missing what goes on in new mother’s physiology, it’s like a recovering drug addict for *a lot* of these women. — I
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Hey Pat, I’ve gotten a lot of great advice from you I’m a bit embarrassed about this question but would really love to hear your take. Having to send this from my junk email account… I’ve been married for 8 years and started dating my wife 15 years ago, in high school. We have a 1
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Recently there was a tweet going around that got some traction. And some of you asked me to comment: As the title of this post suggests, the advice above is full-blown manosphere retardation. It’s one of those tweets that not only pretends to be “alpha” and “logical” in order to rationalize emotional avoidance… but belies a complete
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This email comes in response to an exchange I had intended to answer a LONG time ago… but have finally gotten aroundto. So how do men and women really break up? And how should they? First off… what Ryan says is true, that women tend to “break up emotionally” while they are still in the
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Hey Pat, Thank you for all the content you put out. My girlfriend and I of about 5 months got into our first real argument a few days ago which has left a sour taste in my mouth. The argument seems very childish I admit, but I feel like there may be bigger issues at
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A lot of you guys know Nash from @DaysOfGame_com on Twitter. (If you don’t, he’s one of my most recommended follows, so get on that) Good guy. SMART guy. I met him in NYC a few months back for some lunch and wine… we talked for hours, and if we didn’t have appointments we could have spent
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One of the biggest questions I get on periscopes (almost every week it seems) is about women’s “n-count” and “sexual past,” what it means, and how they should judge a girl on it. I’m not going to really go much into this now. I’ve gone over it so much I think there is scarcely anything
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Yo Pat, I want your perspective on a situation I had a few months ago: I was out at a bar one night and I danced with a girl who was VERY receptive to me. Made out with me enthusiastically, followed my lead in everything, and the masculine/feminine energy was strongly there. I sat down
Reader Mailbag: Girl with BF Flirting, Hot Lead Turned Cold Read More »
Had a conversation with a client the other day, where a very common problem I’ve seen presented itself. Said client was looking for a high quality girl in his community. Unfortunately, these girls are pretty tough to find in his area. So when one he hadn’t heard of was recommended by a friend, he was
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