As promised, I wanted to elaborate a bit on the tweet I made last night about women sleeping with broke boys:
I’ve been getting the impression a lot of guys are annoyed about this phenomenon. You go out and work hard, make money, become successful, and a woman turns you down to sleep with a loser. What gives? Are women just retarded?
Sometimes they are, unfortunately.
But while this happens, it’s also deceptive.
As mentioned in the tweet, if a woman wants to sleep with a guy but doesn’t see a future with him, she’s going to tend to sleep with him quickly. On one hand, it seems crazy that the less appealing men get priority… but there is a logic to it: why wait to sleep with a guy she has no future with?
Often these guys are not even very desirable to the woman, they benefit simply by being in the right place at the right time; they’re “good enough for the job” she had already intended. She wanted to get laid, and he’s available and low maintenance; she doesn’t have to worry about messing up her reputation with him — she can have fun and move on.
But the big point for men to internalize is these girls don’t select broke boys for fast sex because they find wealth and success unattractive, but for the opposite reason: she values the successful man much more, and doesn’t want to come across as cheap to him.
I know, for many of you that’s a small consolation. And it’s why I actually agree that if your objective is simply getting notches, money is least important of the “big 4” to make it happen. Game, looks, and status (especially fame) are going to be the biggest vectors to massive amounts of immediate sex. These are exactly the types of traits a woman wants in a man for an impulsive good time.
But that doesn’t mean money and success won’t get you women. Indeed, you can get a LOT more women, and a lot more from than just casual sex from them… you just need to play a different, less “instant gratification” focused game.
This is something I don’t think many men appreciate: there are MANY different types of strategy when it comes to dating women. And some are going to be easier based on the advantages you have than others.
“Broke boy game” is playing the vagabond; seeking the casual, situational sexual angle. You are going to have a lot of one night stands, and maybe if you’re particularly good, short flings.
“Successful man game” on the other hand is more developing a rotation of girls all competing to be your girlfriend. You have in this case a series of mistresses who will shower you with their femininity, and who will have sex with you for a much longer period of time. These girls become regulars; the only catch is that it usually takes a few dates before they’ll sleep with you.
I don’t personally think the former is preferable to the latter. Some guys are happy to be used for sex by a random girl, but I’d prefer to actually have her interested in me, and to have a romantic dynamic with greater intimacy and longevity. Even from a purely “sex-focused” mindset with women (which I think is pretty lame) — would you prefer to have one drunken hook up with a woman the first time you meet, or would you prefer to wait a date or two to have 10+ romantic ones after where the woman is heavily invested?
The guy getting more sex is unquestionably the rich one. And the quality of the sex, along with the quality of woman is invariably higher.
But there’s more to this conversation that needs to be addressed as well. Because there is another reason that the broke guy often gets laid more easily than the successful one.
Broke guys tend to be more wild.
This is not something that necessarily has to happen. But it tends to, because a guy without money is a guy who is trusts more in the unknown usually. Money allows a man to control more. But poverty forces him to be more in the moment; more spontaneous.
And women like this. A LOT.
The reason for this is a bit esoteric, and I talk about it in more detail in my masterclass. But a man trusting in the unknown is in a certain sense acting with more integration; there’s a feminine aspect to his reliance on serendipity — it is almost like trusting in the feminine itself. And women on an unconscious level respond strongly to this. It is almost as if they want to bless the man who does it. And they usually do this with their sex.
Let me give you a brief example of this. One of my clients, who is pretty successful, was off traveling. He was talking to girls, but was having middling success with them. Some interest and kissing, but was also missing opportunities.
Then he got robbed. He was basically broke and vagabonding. His game didn’t improve from this situation, but the energy he was traveling with did. Now he was a man drifting in the unknown, relying on fate to survive. The women he met quickly reacted to it… and just like that he got laid.
You don’t need to be broke to be wild, however — and I would obviously not recommend it. Instead focus on what these men do that makes them feel different to women: their lack of concern with what is around the corner for them, and their trust in the unknown. These men live a life of uncertainty and impulse, which makes them exciting. Money doesn’t have to take away from this. Indeed, if you use it correctly, it can even amplify it.
Anyway, that’s the low down on “broke boy attraction.”
It’s nothing to envy or aspire towards. But you can learn from their wildness, which is an energy often missing in more stable men.
And if you want help harnessing that energy?
Considering all the crazy shit I’ve been through in my life, suffice to say I can help you to bring it out of you.
