You guys have been asking a lot about MBTI personality types these days.
But I’ve demurred quite a bit on the subject.
Not because I won’t talk about it.But it’s a big rabbit hole, and I don’t want it to consume the content of my work.
MBTI is something that has been VERY useful for working with clients, both in terms of dating tactics and personal development… and yet it can very easily become a be-all-end-all in thinking.
Especially when people shape it into a rigid system, where X type can only relate to others like Y.
Don’t get me wrong. I’m not going down the slippery slope of saying “we can change types” or anything like that.
But I’ve read a lot of online blogs and forums on MBTI. And the patterns I’ve seen is that:some types talk much more about MBTI than others (intuitives, ENFP/INFJs in particular)everybody has a different opinion on which type is right for the other.
For instance, I’ve seen a lot of posts saying the best pairing for one type is the same one (so ENTP and ENTP). To me this would be absolute hell. I can’t imagine dating another ENTP.
But at the same time, who am I to say they are wrong to do so? If one ENTP likes to date another ENTP, why should I care?
The point is that, while our minds may function in one way (type-determined), our preferences do not follow necessarily.
And while some types may be easier to get along with than others, other types may provide us with more environmental structure and growth.
In other words, there are always tradeoffs to these things.
Maybe as an intuitive you prefer another intuitive mind to explore ideas with.
Or maybe you prefer a sensor to ground you.
Maybe as a judger you want another judger whose approach you can relate to.
Or maybe you want a perceiver to open up your mind.
Point is… there is no “perfect” type for your type.
Though there may be an ideal type for YOU.
So pay attention to which ones you’re drawn towards.
Not only will it help you figure out what you want in a woman… it’ll show you want you need to address in yourself.
(Psychological attraction is always to some degree a fascination or compensation)
If you’d like to learn more about type and attraction — both for your own and those of the women you meet — go here: www.patstedman.com/application
– Pat
