You ever go online to search for something specific and then end up reading or watching something completely different?

Rhetorical question, I know 😉

Well, today I found myself in that trap, unintentionally watching clips of World War One trench warfare.

Most of the scenes were the usual: a bunch of young men waiting to go “over the top” into no mans land… followed by their inevitable slaughter.

Looking on the surface, the message was clear: world war one was a pointless bloodbath. I nor anybody else should want no part in that. Stay away at all costs.

And yet, what did I do for the next 30 minutes?

Look for more clips of world war one trench warfare.

I watched them until I’d watched them all, and when I couldn’t find any more, I shifted to my attention to Stalingrad.

(thanks for the suggestion youtube!)

Turns out, the scene didn’t matter, I just wanted to see people stabbed, shot, and blown apart.

Sick right?

What the fuck is wrong with me?

Am I bloodthirsty monster? Do I want to kill people?

On some level, probably. We all do.

(Yes, you buttercup. One of the most important things you can do is level with yourself about how capable of evil you are — and you are evil)

But the real gem was that was exactly what the film producer wanted me to feel.

He was showing me “consciously” that war was terrible, while subconsciously making me want to be a part of it.

“Omg what a tragedy all those people dying wow think of amazing it would be to kill all those bad guys”

Of course, people who’ve been to war rarely have the same romanticization.

But for the uninitiated, these films go right to our desire for heroism; to be masculine. They are intoxicating.

Yet rarely do you see a film producer glorify war outright.

Makes sense. War is hell, and you don’t want to be seen as encouraging it.

Yet on a certain psychological level, that’s exactly what they’re doing.

They’re telling me not to do something while making me feel like I want to do it.

In other words, they’re sending me mixed messages.

Sneaky bastards.

Yet you can do the same thing to women too.

And, if you want to be a pro at seduction, should.

Mixed messages allow you to get behind people’s defenses.

They can make a girl want you without her even understanding why.


You can read more about mixed messages here.

And if you want to learn how to apply it to texting?

Get my book, Tackling Texting.

It’s chock full of “mind game” strategies that are so advanced… to a woman they don’t even feel like games.

They just make her want you. End of story.

Here’s the link:

Enjoy your Saturday,

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