A reader writes in: “Hello Pat ! I’d like to ask you something that I don’t think you’ve already went through (if that’s the case, please send me the link to the email you wrote that talked about it). Please know that as a non-paying customer, I have no expectation from you to answer this […]
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An interesting thread cropped up recently by Aella. For those who don’t know her, Aella is an interesting character, and a testament to how you can succeed in any industry with hard work and intelligence. She’s a “cam girl” — but while pretty, she’s no bombshell. And yet she’s apparently one of the most well paid out there.
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An interesting tweet about the differences in marriages came up on the timeline the other day: It’s a poignant observation, though it’s unclear exactly how historically accurate it is if you go way far back. In the 1950s sure, there was a lot of marriage taking place between men and women more or less at the same
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Had a comment in response to my last email, which was interesting. First things first, of course I will agree: politics isn’t sexy. It has not and never will be good policy to attract a woman by talking about current events or complaining about this or that politician or policy. Politics is about dominance hierarchies
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Short and to the point email for you today. But I want to bring something to your attention, so you can understand “the stakes” so to speak. You may not be where you want to be. But so long as you are focused on moving forward, and you are committed to “overcoming,” you will get there.
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Interesting exchange occurred the other day between the great Ben Foth and me over what a male comfort issue might look like: As you can see, I already gave my two cents. But I gave the response offhand, and it wasn’t adequate for the topic — so let’s consider it a bit more. Women want commitment on
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Yet another provocation on the timeline turned up the other day. Anddd I’ve got a couple things to say about this one. (Highlights in text so no need to watch if you don’t want to) Let’s dissect this bit by bit: — “If he touches you on the first date, he’s not that into you.
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Yesterday we talked about what kind of girls typically fall into the Bangzone — the female version of the Friendzone, where a girl hooks up with a guy she likes regularly but can’t get his commitment. As you might imagine, this is a difficult situation for a girl. Like a guy in the corresponding Friendzone,
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Today’s topic is a little spicy. We’ll be talking about the classic “1-10” ranking system that guys have for girls. And what the “Pat Stedman” version is… and why it matters. But before we go in: I know women hate this. Sorry. Not much else I can say though. This is a natural way men
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Love and hate a situation that emerged with a client the other day. Love it cause it’s one of my favorite topics, but hate it cause it’s always a difficult convo… as guys hate to hear. Basically, my client is seeing this girl. Very attractive. They slept together on their first date, and apparently the
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