A reader writes in: Should you aim for compatibility / a best friend, OR should you aim for someone where there is that instant sincere love (that warm feeling you get when you’re with family) That’s the short question. The backstory is I have a girl I’ve dated on and off for about 5 years […]
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An interesting tweet by Michael Sebastian got some traction yesterday, as did my response: Going to elaborate on it, because I think it’s something trad guys in particular struggle to understand about attraction. Cutting to the point: People have all sorts of dumb fantasies about what women used to want, as if female desire has
A reader writes in, initially quoting me: “He has not shown up as a man. And escaping into another woman is not going to solve what created his current relationship problems.I know, because I spent the first couple of years with my wife in the same sort of situation.” My question is this, did you
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So last night I was at a media mixer, talking about the state of dating, relationships, all that good stuff. One of the other attendees was a woman who turned out to be a divorce lawyer. And boy did she have some interesting stories to tell. Now, I know a lot of you have this
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Time to be honest: I’m an ENTP, which as those of you who know the type know… one thing that is very natural for me is to argue against things I think are stupid. (Yeah I know, annoying… but I’m much better than I used to be, I promise) Anyway, it’s a very unfortunate thing
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I tweeted this out last week and it got some attention… though not as much as it should have. (it’s usually like that on Twitter) But to be fair, a lot of people were confused by it. So let’s address that. Boundaries > Tension > Intimacy is the formula for how a romantic interaction progresses.
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A big problem with black-white thinking on relationships is there is an assumption that all “beta” styled relationships are the same… and that the same approach will work for each of them. There are two types I see commonly. The first is the “best friends” dynamic. This is a relationship characterized but trust and comfort.
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THE ULTIMATE IMPERATIVE If you’ve been around our corner of the internet, you’ve probably heard the term “feminine imperative” — coined by the highly influential and insightful Rollo Tomassi — thrown around. For the uninitiated, the feminine imperative is essentially the execution of a woman’s sexual strategy: to sleep with a man who is dominant
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TACTICS, STRATEGY, AND WOMEN In 218 BC, Hannibal of Carthage and his army crossed the Alps into Italy. The move brought with it considerable risk. The alps were dangerous territory — the weather was harsh, the passes narrow, and Hannibal’s army (which included elephants) suffered nearly half its force trying to pass through. But militarily,
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PERSONA: THE SECOND PILLAR OF ATTRACTION (PART 2) In Part 1 we talked about the nature of Persona. Now we’re going to explore it in detail, how it interacts with the other Pillars of Attraction, and how it comes into play both when you’re single and in a relationship. Persona Converts Opportunities (And Strengthens The Other Pillars)
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